divergent/character

When the book started, she always thought she would just end up being in the class called abnegation, they were the leaders of the city, but were selfless.  She finds out that there is a chance that there are multiple classes to choose from to go into.  She is having a self to self conflict right now, and a little bit of a self to community.  First with the self to community, she has to make a decision that will change her life forever.  The community makes her do that. If she makes the choice to go to abnegation then her parents would be happy and she might not be, but if she goes to dauntless (the defenders of the city) she might be happier but her parents would be so sad.  Her self to self problem is her choosing this class.  Am I going to choose dauntless or abnegation? This has been eating at her all day. Should I be selfless and go to abnegation? Should I be rambunctious and go to dauntless?  If it is eating at her this much then she should go to abnegation, because it is a selfless act to do something not for yourself but for your family instead.